I am not sure if that is obvious or if that will be a complete surprise for some of you.
Sometimes I have to force myself to do things and sign up for things so that I will HAVE to do it. That may sound bad, but it’s really just because I am such a shy person.
I used to actually be even more of a shy person. I was always afraid to try new things, I was afraid to say yes to things and so on. The person I was just 5 or 10 years ago is completely different from the person that I am today.
This post will probably sound like I’m an advertisement for the Jim Carrey movie Yes Man, but it is true – saying yes more often can actually change your life. I’m not saying that you should do things that will jeopardize your life (you can still go skydiving!) or things that are illegal, I’m telling you just to start saying yes more.
There are many reasons why you need to start saying yes more:
- You will meet new people.
- You will learn more about yourself. If you are saying yes more, you will be constantly testing yourself.
- You’ll learn from your successes and your failures.
- You will feel empowered.
Here are my tips to start conquering your fears and start saying yes more:
What are you scared of?
First, you need to really think about what’s holding you back.
- Is it public speaking?
- Meeting new people?
- Trying new things?
What is it?!
Start saying yes to smaller things in your life.
This is a scary thing to say out loud, but I used to actually be afraid to just talk to people on the phone. I still did it, but I would almost always outline important things to remember so that if I ever tripped on my words that I could get back on track.
Yup, that’s how big of a loser I am!
I do think that I got a lot of that from my mother though. She would have me call people all the time, even if it were just to order pizza.
It’s because she was too afraid to talk to people!
Learn from your mistakes.
Even though you are saying “yes” to more things in life, it does not automatically mean that your life will get better.
You may fail at some things, but that’s okay. You learn from your failures, and then you can improve.
Do you find yourself saying “NO” a lot? Or are you a yes person?
What are your (big or small) fears?